It is not about paid work. It is about effort into a relationship. We both work hard but make very different amounts. Sure I come home and make dinner. My work day does not stop after my paid work. Neither does his.

Eyes open and lots of hard work! Its a partnership and joint effort.

Being in a similar situation, I used to feel the same way but if your significant other doesn’t agree with you on that point then it will probably fuel many fights. I came to the realization that yes, I do spend a 1/3 of my day at work to make money for both of us but I would have to do that with *or* without her in my life.

Your home life and your work life both have certain responsibilities in my opinion and you can’t really slack on one just because you do most or all of the other or you’ll probably begin to resent one another. If you don’t want to do your share of upkeep than what more will your significant other’s home life be but to be your maid and in return you give her food, shelter, and money?

So, if you and your wife have no children, she doesn’t go to school, she doesn’t work….
You can go put in 8 hours and come home and help with household chores for a happy marriage. Yeah.. sure.

I was pleasantly surprised to find this example. If my husband didn’t help bathe our sons some nights, take the trash out, or at the very least rinse the dishes, I can assure you it’d be a very different life for him =/. You know the old saying, “if Mama ain’t happy…”